ASK THE BOLDER WOMAN

It's about time I get back to this column as I've accumulated quite a number of email queries. I like to hold things up a little and sort them out since many are quite similar. Here  is one of them from 26-year old Florence Dalue. (Yay! I've got young women reading this too!)

Florence: My boyfriend of four years used to like me to be naked during sex. However, nowadays, he tends to want me to keep some of my clothes on. This is not the only thing he constantly wants differently. There was a phase he liked me in boots, pantyhose, rock cchick garb, etc. Let's just say that the only constant is that he is always changing what he wants. It's like I have to be a contortionist of sorts. I am a little confused and am wondering if he is getting bored of me. I'm interested to know what you think Missus Singapore.

MS: Well Florence, the first thing you ought to know about men and sex is that they are as fickle as we are when it comes to shopping for shoes. We go out looking for pumps and end up with heels after spending hours browsing through the shoe departments at the mall.

The key is to be versatile. Instill the habit and pre-empt his impending requests. Yes, men do get bored easily and if you are really interested, or want to be with him, it's important to fan the flames of sexual desire. It's not the only ingredient for a relationship but when you are younger, it's an important foundation pillar. It's the glue that binds two souls really. Once you got that set in, you can confidently build from there.

The longer you are with a guy, the harder it is to keep these flames burning but that comes with the territory. Of course he needs to do his part to like please you sexually and later - if you're together that long - take out the trash or bring Fido for his daily walk. 

You've got to be flexible as well. New lingerie, varying personas, different locations, lots of teasing and the likes will go a long way in fanning the flames of desire. Just make sure you space them out and make it a point to continue reading up about sex and how best to improve yourself.

A note though. Porn is not where you will learn anything. You may like to watch it together for arousal purposes but don't make it your source of information.

Missus Singapore out! 

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