FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS (PART 1)

It’s obvious that the Internet and social networking has promoted the growth of the phenomenon of friends with benefits. It’s just so easy to connect unlike before.

You don’t have to go out as much as before, spend as much money or even, beg as much for a person looking for the same. They are all out there, just as eager as you are to have an uncommitted romp in the sack. Moreover, these days, it has been glamorised by society.

However, the challenge is to find such a friend, and when you do, how to keep the relationship on a steady and uncomplicated plateau.

For me personally, a ‘friend with benefits’ is not a term that sits nicely with me. I mean I have friends who help me with my IT issues, some let me in clubs without cover, others throw valuable work contacts my way – there is just so many ways that one can have a friend with benefits. I prefer the in-your-face term casual sex friend or fuck buddy.

On the surface, this NSA relationship can seem so simple but on the flip side - I’ve seen it many times before – it can also be a nightmare waiting to happen if you don’t strictly follow the rules.

If you are in such a relationship, then you will know that it may not always be so easy to maintain. If you are thinking of going into it, well, it’s only fair to lay out the ‘hazards’ that may show up at some point. Of course, you may be lucky enough to avoid them but still, they are worth a mention. Two of them come to mind.

This is no secret and it has been reported numerous times in the past – casual sex has the tendency to leave its players emotionally empty, and in some cases, physically and spiritually distressed.

I can almost hear many of you saying ‘That’s silly! I’m just in it for the sex. No emotions.’

That’s easier said than done. I’ve no doubt those are your initial thoughts and let’s just say you are able to keep to those principles. Your relationship lasts for an extended period of time before you eventually go your separate ways and close the book on that part of your life.

The problems however, are not so much with the NSA relationship. It’s how it affects you later, in your next, possibly serious one. I’ve heard it numerous times how some struggle to form strong emotional bonds or love, intimacy and trust with that someone special.

The second ‘hazard’ of having a friend with benefits is that over a prolonged period of time, it’s quite inevitable that one begins to crave more. It’s also common for some level of emotions to creep in. It’s really a natural thing for us humans to bond this way.

Science explains this as a natural progression that occurs when there is an exchange of physical energy that triggers the secretion of brain hormones. These chemicals are responsible for human bonding. Consider this – even after we stopped having sex with someone, we continue to feel some connection to them.

Having said that, it is still possible to have a healthy fuck buddy relationship and not be affected by it. Maturity is a useful trait. The other is sticking to the rules of engagement which I will cover in tomorrow’s post. Watch out for that.

Missus Singapore out!

Missus Singapore or Miss Us Singapore (at your own peril) - A married woman on the loose

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Hokkaido Sushi: Dreaming of Gyu Don featuring Hokkaido Rice!

Ohmi Gyu Don with Sashimi Set $60++ If I had to pick something as my last meal, it would have to be a few slices of wonderfully marbled Wagyu over a bowl of steaming hot, pearly drops of Japanese rice. I just love the way the juices ooze out of the meat to mix with the sweet toothy rice.  It really is something I can eat everyday! When I visited Tatsuya's last month, I heard from Chef Sasaki

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REAL FRIEND WITH BENEFITS

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Like it or not, this is an era where casual sex has been glamorised in today’s society. Even in conservative ones like those found across Asia, the phenomenon of ‘Friends with Benefits’ has emerged.


But in all honesty, this is nothing new. Back in the 80s, when casual sex was at its peak (just before AIDS came into the picture), I knew of many friends who were engaging in similar-type relationships. Then, it was referred to as – repeat after me – casual sex.

Personally, 'Friend with benefits’ is a term I feel is too broad and not specific enough. Before this phenomenon came about, my girlfriends and I used to refer to our trusty sex toys as our friends with benefits. But there is some validity in that.

Look at it this way, your ‘friend with benefits’ may desert you one day. Circumstances change and things can and often will get complicated. There is a rollercoaster of emotions at play which you fight to keep neutral. How will you take it when he or she finally decides to find someone else to settle down with?

This is why underneath it all, a true friend with benefits for a woman is one who will NEVER let you down, ALWAYS be by your bedside (or in your bag) and not offload unwanted baggage and issues on you. There won’t be any jealousy issues to deal with too.

Invariably, there is nothing quite like a real person as a friend with benefits but to be safe, it’s a good idea to have a back up in the form of a good quality sex toy. Nonetheless, like a real friend, you will have to do your research too.

If you intend to head down that road, there is a wonderland waiting for you to explore. Granted selecting from Edenfantasy sex toys is anything but easy – there are so many items to choose from – there is every possibility that you will find something to fit your whim and fancy. The best part, you can get these luxurious toys online.

Finding a friend with benefits has never been this easy and safe.

Missus Singapore out!

 
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Missus Singapore or Miss Us Singapore (at your own peril) - A married woman on the loose

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DO THE MATH

I received this from two people in the same day. I guess it was telling me that I just needed to put it up. One up for the woman. Thanks James and Gloria72.

"A husband wrote the following letter for his wife and left it on the dining room table: 'To My Dear Wife, you will surely understand that I have certain needs that you, being 54 years old, can no longer satisfy.

I am very happy with you and I value you as a good wife. Therefore, after reading this letter, I hope that you will not wrongly interpret the fact that I will be spending the evening with my 18-year-old secretary at the Comfort Inn Hotel.

Please don't be upset - I shall be home before midnight."

When the man came home late that night, he found the following letter on the dining room table: "My Dear Husband, I received your letter and thank you for your honesty about my being 54 years old. I would like to take this opportunity to remind you that you are also 54 years old.

As you know, I am a math teacher at our local college. I would like to inform you that while you read this, I will be at the Hotel Fiesta with Michael, one of my students, who is also the assistant tennis coach. He is young, virile and like your secretary, is 18-years-old.

As a successful businessman who has an excellent knowledge of math, you will understand that we are in the same situation, although with one small difference - 18 goes into 54 a lot more times than 54 goes into 18. Hence, I will not be home until sometime tomorrow."

Missus Singapore out!

Missus Singapore or Miss Us Singapore (at your own peril) - A married woman on the loose

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717 Trading: You pay for what you get!

D100 - Bitter Sweet Durian It's been a rather fruitful (literally) Durian Season for me as I managed to expand the list of Durian cultivars as well as reliable Durian stalls on the blog.  I hope that it will be a useful reference for you when you head out for your next Durian Feast! As the season draws to a close,  I return again to 717 Trading to speak to Mr Goh, the Durian seller who really

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VIDEO OF THE WEEK

They say the rains are-a-coming. Well we just have to wait and see if we get some much-needed cooling from this dreadful weather.

To kickstart your week, here's a video which I am sure, many women can associate with. Cleaning your pipes never felt so good, you would want to do it over and over again.

Missus Singapore out!

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Our Singapore Pledge: Share your thoughts at Pledge.sg

A friend of mine challenged me to take part in the photo competition at pledge.sg.  So since I wanted to do something a little different, I made this particular cinemagraph. But alas, when I tried to submit it, it got rejected because they only accept jpg files!!  Goes to show that you need to read the rules first! : ( Anyway, in case you still haven't heard about pledge.sg, it is a site where

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