ASK THE BOLDER WOMAN

Today I will highlight an email query sent in by Yvette, an early childhood educator who is married with an infant son. She asks an interesting question.

Q: I have always had this fantasy in my head of being tied up during sex. Now, I am hoping for my husband to do it but how do I go about asking him?

MS: Fessing up to a fantasy is always a tricky thing, especially for couples who do not have an open highway of communication between them. In your case, there is the fear that your hubby might think of you as a S&M super-freak or some sexual deviant of equal measure. In other words, there is always the fear of rejection and ridicule.

One of the best ways to go about this is to talk to him and reveal your fantasy whilst in bed, better still, during or soon after sex. In such situations, bringing up the topic is unlikely to be misconstrued as a fantasy.

Another way I find effective is the evergreen one of saying a friend tried it and it had piqued your curiosity. This is similar to the 'read it in a magazine' strategy.

Once you bring it up, it will be a lot easier to revisit with it once again and go into deeper talk about it. Don't go buying restriants or hoods or anything like that just yet. Go slow and use simple strap rope to begin with. If he is given the honour to join you in your road-test, chances are he will be adding his inputs too and that will inevitably steer your bedroom antics towards greater adventure, and pleasure.

Missus Singapore out!

Missus Singapore or Miss Us Singapore (at your own peril) - A married woman on the loose

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