FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS (PART 3)

A NSA sex relationship can be a totally exhilarating experience but in order to reach that nexus of sexual gratification, you will need to understand and embrace the rules of engagement. Failure to do so may complicate things – something that goes against the basic principles that govern it.

Separate feelings
This is a tricky one. You need a strong mind. This is not an emotional relationship so be direct if you need to be in order to check if both parties feel the same way. If you notice emotions entering the fray, it’s time to re-look at the situation and engineer a change or break ties once and for all. You need a shared understanding after lines are drawn.

Be honest
Yes, honesty is the best platform to spring your NSA relationship from. One of the advantages of this is that you can be upfront with regards to your intentions. Clearly communicating your expectations and boundaries helps prevent misunderstandings and confusion.

Don’t try to change

It would be a big mistake to try and change yourself or your partner during the course of your relationship. It is also just as bad to mislead your partner when you sense that emotions may be emerging. This amounts to trickery and ultimately, someone is bound to be hurt. Neither should you take advantage of the situation.

Limit meet-ups
One of the biggest mistakes made is when partners fail to find a balance between emotional detachment and physical intimacy. One way to do this is to limit your time spent together. Going out on dates is not the way to go. When you spend more time together, this can propagate feelings for one another and mixed messages may be sent.

Safe sex 
Any type of sex you have should be safe. With no promise of exclusivity, you can never tell who else your partner might be having sex with. Just as your happiness in such a relationship is your responsibility, so too is your health.

Missus Singapore out!

PS: Look out for the last installment of this series when I will post interesting testimonials by some people who are in a NSA sex relationship.

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