THE WRONG IMPACT

Well finally, after years of stating that affairs by women are on the rise, there is some acknowledgement. Apparently, family lawyers are reporting rising affairs by women are the cause of many divorces here.

The figures are staggering. Almost as many women are having affairs as their male counterparts. Some put it down to the rising status of women in the home and workplace who seem to think that they are 'entitled' to this.

I mean I am all for women chasing their dreams, carving out a successful career and taking measures to improve their self-confidence but this is one area that they really don't need to step into.

Of course many blame their husbands for not paying attention to them, ignoring their needs or simply not showing any interest in them sexually and interlectually. What a load of hogwash. If you really want someone to pay attention to you, the onus is really on you to give them reason to.

Many women just don't make any effort to steam up their marriage. Let's get it straight. Men can do their part but are really limited by what they can do. They can lay out the candles, put on the music, take their spouses out for a romantic dinner but at the end of the day, the visual feast is what women create best - make-up, lingerie, sexy strut, etc. Try as they like to, I doubt many men will provide a visual feast in bed as much as a woman can.

But more to that, if there are signs of cracks in a marriage, or for that matter, in any relationship, steps have to be taken to address these problems. Another reason why I keep trying to say that communication is equally, if not, just as important as love is in a relationship.

If you can hit it off from the word 'Go' and comfortably talk about everything under the sun, then the odds are in yoru favour. If not, try to effect means to achieve better communication. Love alone is overrated. What it could use is a boost from a couple's open line of communication. That will help you over the long haul.

I also received an email saying how he thinks swinging will help save a marriage, since couple's won't have to do things behind their partner's back. Well, although I have from time to time spoken about it, mostly in favourable terms, I don't agree that it should be a solution for a marriage in crisis.

Swinging are for couples who are in healthy, strong and trusting relationships. It will enhance what they already have and has been known to strengten bonds. However, if such attributes are not present, swinging, I dare say, will be the perfect recipe for disaster. All it can do here is add further complication to an already tricky situation. Not advisable in my opinion.

Missus Singapore out!

Missus Singapore or Miss Us Singapore (at your own peril) - A married woman on the loose

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