BEATING THE SEX KILLERS (PART 2)

(...continued from yesterday)

One thing you can do is to ‘keep up to date’ by reading sex books or visiting sex forums and sites. I’m not referring to porn although I’ve been told that many (both men and women) do so.

Besides, watching porn in that state may have a negative effect because it can make you feel that you are even missing more than you already are. Imagine, ending up miserable after watching porn.

You might also talk to your close friends about it and see how they are dealing with the same issues, which they are likely to be. Friends will be really handy to have at this stage.

Another strategy is to keep fit. Hey, if you got to work, look after the kids and do the housework, you can still do it. I have but you just need to be creative about it.

You can create a workout from running errands, going for lunch or to the store or even changing baby’s diapers. All you need is music. You can only be a more effective mother if you’re healthy. Moreover, keeping fit does help keep the mind and body primed for sex a lot more. It certainly beats bemoaning your predicament.

The third and perhaps most challenging, is to create a ‘love corner’. I know in the pigeon-hole apartments that many of us live in, that can be difficult but it’s important. How is anyone going to feel easily aroused with clothes hanging about, diaper bins in the corner or toys on the floor?

You need your couple love corner for now, well at least until junior heads out to university. If not really possible, you need to make baby-sitting arrangements once in a while where you both get outdoors to enjoy each other.

You are not neglecting your child. In fact, because you care for and love him or her, you ought to create a strong relationship with your partner. Children thrive in a loving environment and when there is an show of love between parents, it can only benefit their development.

Missus Singapore out!

Missus Singapore or Miss Us Singapore (at your own peril) - A married woman on the loose

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