LET SEX OUT OF THE BAG

In case you are not up to speed, we here is Singapore have one of the lowest birth rates in the world. Of course this is a phenomenon that many other developed countries are also experiencing today, but not as serious as what we are facing here.

So to counter this trend, the government introduced a Baby Bonus scheme years ago, hoping that it would help encourage couples to have more children by giving out money - the amount of which depends on the number of children a couple has.

With the high cost of having children in Singapore a constant obstacle, that is merely the tip of the iceberg. With all the so-called experts they have sought advice from, it's really odd that money it seems is touted as the main solution. Only now they have determined that it's not working. This coming from the same government who claims it has the best minds on board!

Here are the problems. Firstly, couples are way to exhausted to have sex, let alone think about it, thanks to the high cost of living as adults. No kids are in the equation yet and many of us are already grappling to find time to chill, let alone time to have sex. Bills and more bills to deal with can be a damper to one's libido.

Secondly, sex remains a taboo in our society. It has tried to break out many times but failed miserably. As a result, problems in the bedroom are rarely spoken about. Forget the problems, even sex as an act is hardly spoken openly about.

The blame here, I feel, falls to some extent on the government which has - via very conservative censorship authorities - sterilised many people's mindsets on sex. Imagine, it was only recently that they began allowing Cosmopolitan to be sold here! Articles like 'How to seduce your man', '20 ways to better sex', 'Foreplay towards better sex', 'Get Oral Before Anything Else' were deemed too raunchy for our local audience. Now, they bring it back thinking that it had no effect to the sexual attitudes of its citizens. Again, the same top-minds figured this out!

It's not just Cosmo ( I am using it as an example), but the whole realm of sex that has been sterilised. Just ask any top sex doctors here (OBGYs and Urologists mostly) and they will tell you there is just not enough time to list the common sexual problems that plague many couples.

Believe it or not, in my many conversations, I have been shocked that adult men and women, many of them highly educated, do not even know how to please their partners or even have sex. You know, the penetrative type where you get each other aroused and thereafter get the man to slip his penis into his partner's vagina? Sterile enough for you?

It's just about the act of procreation and not about the lead up to it which if made enjoyable, will get them to want to have more of it. With enjoyment of the act, comes the natural progression of intimacy, love, bond formation and eventually, the a greater likelihood of them consumating their relationship with the creation of a baby.

Sex should be spoken about, and watched even. Adult magazines can be educational too. Porn, I dare say, especially the conventional run-of-the mill sort, does have its merit when it comes to providing tips to learn from and apply.Take seduction and steamy sex talk (foreplay too) for instance. Is someone suppose to say 'Dear, I think it's time to slip your penis into my vagina'. Don't laugh because this is commonly what several doctors have told me about how sex talk between many couples takes place, and that is if there is any talking at all.

Contrast to 'Baby, are you gonna fuck me with that hard dick or watch my hot juices go to waste!'

Sex is just so boring here and money for having babies is not going to change that mindset anytime soon. One really has the impression that all in government don't seem to have a sexual identity. It is just serious men and women who rather not touch on the subject of sex. Stop talking ahead of yourselves.  Before babies can be had, sex has to be enjoyed!

Why would anyone want to bring a baby in the world when the level of intimacy between parents is far from desirable. It's all very technical here. You try a few times, it doesn't bear fruit, you go for IVF!

If they are really sincere about it, they have to loosen up, chill a little more and accept that sex is a natural human instinct! It is not dirty, taboo or bad if both parties are consenting. It's time to stop blaming things on a conservative society because it's a legacy from poor social planning and dour family planning strategies where sex is never in focus at all! It's time to teach couple about how to enjoy sex and equip them with all the skills and energy to make their bedroom antics pay off.

Case in point, I once asked a person working in the local censorship why a certain sex education website for couples was banned and her reply almost had me fall off my chair. "It has the man from behind position!' WTF? Doesn't she know that a woman can still get knocked up that way, but of course enjoy it a lot more??

Missus Singapore out! 


    

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